The Process of  Igba Nkwu Nwanyi in Igbo Culture

The Process of Igba Nkwu Nwanyi in Igbo Culture

From time immemorial, the Igbo culture includes outstanding ceremonies that distinguish them from other tribes in Nigeria. Every ceremony has its excitement, beauty, uniqueness, fun and is deeply rooted in the culture. One of the exciting ceremonies that is celebrated greatly in Igbo culture is the Igba nkwu Nwanyi (Bride’s wine carrying).
Igba nkwu, formally known as Traditional marriage, is an Igbo customary way of marriage. It is the Igbo traditional marriage rites that a groom performs at the bride’s family home in the presence of her family, extended family and his family as well. It is an affair that joins a man and woman as well as their families and villages.

It is important to note that Igbo culture does not recognize the process of marriage proposal on bended knee with a ring as that signifies western culture. In Igbo culture the family, extended family and villagers do not recognize a man and a woman as husband and wife even if kids were involved, until a woman’s bride price has been paid.
In the olden days, Igba nkwu used to be arranged by the parents of the future bride and groom. In this case, after cautious inquiry parents select husband and wife for their children. In certain instances this lead young girls to be betrothed from birth. However, in this modern age, young people are free to choose the spouse of their choice, wherever they find love, with their parents’ approval. Every stage about Igba nkwu takes place in the bride’s family and in her compound. To that effect, there are 4 processes of Igba nkwu, and the idu uno, which is practiced by some communities. It is imperative to know that all stages are essential.

Before the proper traditional marriage takes place, the man makes his intentions known to the woman he’s been dating. He proposes to her and if she accepts the proposal, the next stage is to make his intentions well known to the father and formally ask for the daughter’s hand in marriage. The act of making his intentions well known to the bride’s father is the beginning of the first Igba nkwu process called Ikuaka.

Ikuaka (inqury/knocking): Ikuaka as we have come to know is the first process of Igba nkwu in igbo culture. Here the groom goes with his father and few relatives to declare his intention to marry from that family. They are not obliged to come with anything at this early stage but as a sign of goodwill they come with kola nut and hot drinks. The father of the man usually introduces himself and makes the intention known. In cases where the father of the groom is not alive an uncle or elder brother does that. The bride is usually summoned by her parents and asked if she knows the groom, the reason for his visit and whether she agrees to marry him. If she accepts the kola nut brought by the groom, then that gives way for Iju ajuju or Iju ese (Discovery of family background). Of course they family of the groom will not be expecting immediate answers until after Iju ese or Iju ajuju.

The next process includes seeking the consent of bride’s extended family known as the Umunna: This stage is where the Iju ese or Iju ajuju(discovery of family background) begins. Here both parties go into inquiry about each other’s family and what is being inquired includes the background of the family, reoccurring issues, if there is any bad omen in the family, healthy history, fertility, divorce traces, family history. If any of the parties finds anything negative the marriage process has ended. There will be no more marriage traditionally. This is because the party that found out the negativity will no longer be in support, but in cases where the man and the woman are adamant as a result of love for each other (as can be seen in some cases in this modern age) they might choose to do the court marriage. The court wedding is a western culture, and has no correlation with the Igbo traditional marriage system. Then in cases where the discovery went well the second visit is being scheduled. During the second visit the groom comes with larger people and gifts like kola nuts, palm wine, beer, dry gin, soft drink to restate his intention and seek the consent of the Umunna. Once the Umunna gives their consent as well as the bride (for the second time) then both families share food and drink.

The next process is called Ugwo ishi Nwanyi or Imego (bride price): The bride price is the money paid by a groom to the parents of the woman he has just married or is just about to marry. This is where the negotiation and payment takes place. There comes a lot of bragging from the bride’s family stating their daughter’s accomplishments while the groom and his family continue to beg for negotiation. At the end there’s always an agreement. The bride price goes very low or high depending on what the bride’s father chooses to take from the groom. In some cases, the father of the bride will not take anything from the groom but advised him to take care of their daughter, as they are all one family.

In addition, whenever a woman decides not to be in the marriage anymore because of any reason, or the man doesn’t want to marry her anymore because of whatever reason the bride’s father returns the bride price. This is also the stage where the marriage requirement list is given to the groom and his family. The marriage requirement list is compulsory. This list differs depending on the state, village and community and can be negotiated with the Umunna. They might decide to do it monetarily. The marriage requirement includes yam, wrappers, drinks, chickens, beverages, toiletries, jewelries, kegs of palm wine, bags of rice, food ingredients, soaps, igba “Ichafu” scarfs, wrist watches, umbrellas, etc. Size, quantity and amounts differ according to village, and community as well. The bride price and marriage requirement list is submitted on an agreed day or on the wine-carrying day.

The final process is the Igba nkwu Nwanyi (the bride’s wine carrying): This is the final stage of the process of Igba nkwu nwanyi in igbo culture. It is known as a celebration day. It marks the customary wedding party, which is usually done at the bride’s family. Cards are printed to invite people, the bride’s family decorates their compound and the seats meant for the couple. The couple’s seat is always traditionally decorated with palm fronds, wrappers, and gourds. The bride’s family cater for food, and might even call live bands as well as traditional dancers to make it more entertaining.
If the bride price and marriage requirement is paid this day it is done before the wine carrying. The wine carrying is the major part of this event where the father of the bride pours wine in a cup called “iko” gives it to her to give to the man that she agreed to marry. Her husband to be is hidden in the midst of the invited guest. She dances beautifully holding the cup of wine with smiles on her face as she searches for her husband. During this process the invited guest and husband’s friends beckons at her to bring the drink to them but she knows who her husband is so she searches until she finds him and kneels down to serve the drink to the groom. If the man drinks it then that signifies he is the one. The groom puts some money in the cup, dances with the bride to receive blessing from their parents. After the blessing there comes a lot of feasting and dancing with gifts being given to the couple by friends and family. At the end, the bride goes to her husband’s house. Traditionally, it’s been seen as the first time she is going to her husband’s place.

The Idu uno comes after the traditional wedding. Some communities in Igbo land practice it. This is when the parents of the bride officially visit where the daughter lives. They set a day aside for it and visit her with lots of gift items to start life and family. Idu uno gives a bride respect in her home. The items includes cooking utensils, bed-sheets, suitcases, boxes, sewing machines, bed, pillow cases, plates, spoons, wrappers, clothes, and even cars and other important things depending on the family’s financial capability. This is done to give the family a head start to reduce expenses for them.
In conclusion, it is not enough for a man to propose to a woman. Marriage in Igbo culture is not a matter of man and woman alone. It concerns the close kin of both, and the relationship even extends to both villages. Women are held in high esteem in Igbo culture. The groom has to formally follow the due traditional way to marry a woman in Igbo culture. Each process has its uniqueness and all make up the beautiful ceremony known as Igba nkwu nwanyi in Igbo culture.


Article by: Rosemary Eneogwe hails from Mbaise in Imo state, Nigeria.  Shestudies English and literary at Imo state University located in Owerri, Imo state, Nigeria.  Rosemary enjoys writing, reading, and listening to music. Facebook: Rose Miracle


  1. LINDA
    July 8, 2019 at 2:22 pm


  2. Godson Samuel
    September 24, 2019 at 5:11 pm

    Really interesting to know this. I am so curious from which palm that juice is taken. And would like to know more about the association of the Igbo community towards it.

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